How to care less about what other people think
Feeling judged by other people is normal. You can find out how to better control what people think of you in this article. Finding out what other people think about you is probably one of the most important, yet awkward, moments in your life. You spend your whole life working on impressing others, trying to please them, and go out of your way to avoid rejection and criticism. However, there’s a simple way to not care about what other people think of you. You can learn to forget about your doubts, insecurities, and feelings of inadequacy, and instead use your insecurities as a driving force to prove yourself. It’s simple, but it’s incredibly effective.
Don’t let your insecurities cloud your judgement
Forgetting your insecurities can be very powerful. You’re surrounded by people telling you you’re not good enough, or too fat, or too tall, or too ugly, or too short, or too selfish, or too meek, or too nerdy. And at the same time, you’re probably getting told the same things about yourself.
What’s the deal? Why are these two conflicting things all the time?
It’s because you’re human and your ego is a giant pain in the butt. In order to avoid being crippled by your insecurities, you have to learn to cut them out of your life completely.
Of course, you will always be self-critical and that’s why you have your “inner critic.”
This is your own voice that wants you to fail and wants you to feel less than great about yourself. You just have to drown it out. By fully ignoring your inner critic, you no longer have to worry about what people are saying. You don’t have to worry about whether you’re good enough. You just have to do your best and let the rest fall where it may. You can stop caring about what people think of you. Focusing on other people’s opinions will ruin your life.
The reason you can stop caring about what other people think is because they don’t care about you either.
You’re simply not on their radar; they’re not really considering your thoughts and opinions. They simply see you as a job that needs to be done or a person that can be a source of entertainment. This means that you no longer have to concern yourself with what people think of you, because your job is simply not to worry about it. Start focusing on you. Worry about you. And if people like you or care about you, great. If they don’t, then that’s great too.
These are the things that will make you happy. It’s completely selfish, but it’s a damn good reason to do what you want.
If you don’t like something, change it. It’s as simple as that.What matters is what you think about yourself.One of the biggest problems in life is that people tend to let other people’s opinions sway their own beliefs.“This is a classic example of ‘comforting someone else at the expense of oneself,’” Dr. Gal Beckerman, president and CEO of Advanced Adolescent Psychology, told INSIDER.
“You can’t really love someone else until you love yourself, so if you don’t love yourself, it’s hard to care about other people.”So, in order to not let other people’s opinions influence you, you must accept that you are exactly as good as you think you are, and that what matters is what you think about yourself.
You can only change your own life.You can only change your own life.Changing your life requires that you change your own thoughts. This is what I call the power of self-talk.
You’re only a slave to your thoughts when you allow them to dictate your actions. This is why if you don’t like something, then you should change it. You can’t stay in a bad mood and let other people dictate your mood. You must make a conscious effort to change your own mood.To change your own life, it’s important that you begin making the same conscious effort that you do when you think about changing other people’s lives. You need to say to yourself things like, “I am going to change. I am going to get where I want to go and do what I want to do.”
If you’re still not sure that you want to change, then begin by changing yourself first.Practice makes perfect.Practice is vital.The reason why some people are seemingly perfect at everything they do is that they practice a lot.You can be the most talented violinist in the world, but if you don’t play every day, you’re not going to be that good. Same with writing or blogging or anything else you want to get good at.So spend some time practicing. Put something on the back burner. It’s better to practice what you’re good at and get really good at it than to practice something that you don’t care for.
Just get started.Start small and work your way up.It’s easy to see people you admire and think that you want to be just like them. But the truth is that they’re just like them because they’ve spent their entire lives focusing on themselves and building on what they’ve already done.
It doesn’t mean that it’s going to be easy. There’s a lot of work involved. But it’s worth it. And if you’re going to work your way up, then start with just being better than you were yesterday.
You don’t need to wait for things to happen. You can choose to do things now. If you’ve learned anything, it’s that things in life rarely happen on their own.You can’t expect to move into a new house on your own, buy a car, or get a good-paying job by sitting around and waiting for it to happen. You have to decide to work toward these things. You can’t change your circumstances, but you can change your mindset.
“You can choose to do things now,” Beckerman told INSIDER. “It is a choice. Do you want to change your life? Do you want to work toward doing what you want to do and be successful?”
Be authentic.As I’ve mentioned in this article, authenticity can sometimes be tricky. In order to be authentic, you must learn how to be yourself no matter what.As Adele said, “I’ve never tried to be someone else, so I’m afraid I’ll never feel comfortable being myself.”
When you’re authentic, you can be yourself and be accepted, just the way you are.
Don’t try to be perfect. Perfect is the enemy of progress. Perfection is often a terrible thing because when you try to be perfect, you stop moving forward. Don’t let yourself get so caught up in trying to be perfect that you don’t make progress.
Focus on the fundamentals.The world is filled with opportunities. But, instead of doing all the things that are not important, do all the things that are.Focus on the fundamentals of the things you want to get good at.“If you look back at the masters, they had a handful of foundational skills and they honed them. That’s exactly what you should focus on,” Beckerman told INSIDER. “Let your work stand on its own.”
Be patient. It’s easy to get frustrated and give up when you don’t see immediate results.But patience is the key to success.Patience isn’t just about patience for your work.It’s also about patience for the time that it takes to make changes in your life. The longer you give yourself, the faster you’ll be able to accomplish what you want.You are perfect, right this minute.Just think about that for a minute.
We’re always waiting for the perfect moment.The perfect time. The perfect opportunity.
If you take anything from this article, let it be this.It’s not going to happen, and there’s nothing you can do about it.
Be kind to yourself.It’s easy to let your sense of self-worth get tied up in the opinions of others.
For most of us, we don’t get to choose who our friends are.They’re who we are stuck with.But that doesn’t mean that we can’t change who we are and who we surround ourselves with.
You don’t have to be “just like them.” Don’t be their doormat.
It’s easier to do this than it sounds.Say what you mean and mean what you say.Focus on yourself.Do your best and be the best that you can.Be kind.It’s important that you treat yourself well.
In the end, if you do these things, you will be the person you want to be.
You can choose to work hard, earn more money, and get promoted. Or you can choose to be someone who is loved.If there’s one thing I’ve learned in my life, it’s that you can’t make other people love you. And that’s okay.
You can’t make someone love you. But, you can make sure that you love yourself.You need to be the best that you can be, because you are all you’ve got.Because you don’t have a partner in life, you have a life partner, and that’s yourself.
“Change Your World. Change Yourself. Change the world.”
